Marriage - the magic (!) word that comes around like a buzzing bee, if any of us are in the age range of 25 and 29 (I won't count 30 and above into this range as it attracts very less/no prospects). Of course I have chosen to touch upon Marriage as I'm not married yet and its just biting me hard (as others keep constantly asking about it) than ever before!I'm sure this topic can be interesting to many and will have lots of details to share. So please feel free to write them in the comments section with your name. When I started writing this blog, I realized this topic is going to go long in many parts, so please spare me if it happens to be too long!
I would like to touch upon the important factors that enable marriages to happen one-by-one:
Education: A very vital point that is needed for a marriage. Especially in the states like Kerala 100% literacy) and Tamil Nadu (90% literacy) it is totally inevitable to imagine a marriage without weighing the education factor (I believe this prevails elsewhere too but the weightage could be relatively different). Both grooms and brides are expected to have studied the most sought-after educations at the outset. The prevailing and most opted education is that something attracts IT or ITES jobs.
Nowadays almost in all schools (exclude govt schools) parents education is assessed before admitting their children in the respective schools. I share a different view on this aspect but it has become a de-facto nowadays. So this factor imposes a very strong point on both grooms and brides education to be checked.
What education means? Literacy is important in my own view. But the general public has defined a graduation is the meaning of education. If some one has not done any graduation they are so called uneducated people! I am completely different of this view. If we check the education background of most our parents it would be pity to note that they would have seen a college only to admit their children’s there. It would be interesting to note that the southern states of India have always come a long way emphasizing education from the late 19th century. So, I don't mean to say our parents were not educated but most of them may not be graduates or a degree holder.
I certainly agree in the years to come we necessarily have to have a very good education background to survive and also help our children’s study and grow-up in good institutions. For some unknown reasons, if some one has opted or was forced not to continue the education to achieve any graduation what would be the consequences? That might result very badly in finding a job, and in my opinion the most hit would be the marriage part. Sometimes it so happens, people tend to ignore the prospective non-graduate groom/bride regardless of other good qualities like brought-up, family, personal characters, and of course good-looks (I intend to touch upon them later in detail).
So education is pivotal for marriage prospects to really gear-up further.
(To be continued..)
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3 comments:
Too good a topic to blog on... :)
Though,we keep saying marriages is all about compatibility, mental liking and the blah's, deep down when it comes to arranged marriages, especially in communities like Iyers and the likes, education plays a vital role. I guess,more than the graduation, its for social recognition, settlement in life and most importantly, self respect and pride,and maybe good genes to pass to the next generation! But, the marriage market out there seems to be like a job market these days with resumes flowing arnd... I guess, good education takes u to the altar and gets u married, but then how u survive the relationship, its upto us... What matters at the end of the day is how understanding and loving the couple are... thats the prime thing !
You are absolutely correct Divya! The original idea of the blog is to write on how the marriage industry(nothing wrong in using it) is working and if you would like to be a good prospect what is needed - that's my focus! Absolutely there are fake prospects as seen in IT jobs! I would like to explore all aspects of how a marriage materializes - yes only arranged marriages!
Continue to contribute your thoughts & perceptions!
well ... i mst agree.. u hav choosen quite a topic !! ..
i wont say ppl consider an person widout an UG degree to flaunt as uneducated .. but sadly we gauge a suitor by his educational qualification .. if only thedegree garenteed the kind of person .. that is if at all he / she iks a person of substance / a human being to a considerable extent!
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