Clueless!

Sometimes in our life, we love something/somebody so much but at some point in time, we will realize it is not going to be ours. This realization is a big step ahead from the day we wished/loved something. What is the remedy? I always try to think about the famous philosophical saying "Like/Love what you have got."

In our daily walk of life, every thing appears achievable - is it possible? We live in a very optimistic world where we assume things to fall in place. For few, life always is a cake walk - less efforts and formidable results. And for others, life is a tight-rope-walk - efforts are considerably high and the results are moderate. Still, we are happy and contended with what we possibly have achieved after that tough and tiring tight-rope-walk. I think this is the simple life theory! What potentially can happen is what drives us forward. But if we look back, what we possibly have achieved could be just a portion of it - but we are still contended and of course looking forward.

What is a perfect life? Good education, true friends, awesome career, understandable life-partner, a lavish house, an expensive car, wonderful kids... blah.. blah? Are you really having a perfect life? I'm sure every 6 out of 10 person will say NO. But are they not leading their life happily? I think its all about setting the expectations right! It is a trial-and-error process by which we learn every aspects of setting expectations right! As per our Indian social setup, everything should happen at pre-defined point-in-time; for example, education, job, marriage, kids and so on. I think the society has begun issuing me a Non-conformance for non-alignment of pre-defined staged-life-process. My first foreign travel happened almost after my complete six years of IT career - of course this was TOO late per standards, as already my peers made umpteen number of travels by then. Next I will achieve 3 decades of existence in 3 months from now, but still leading a happy bachelor life. According to the society, it appears a TOO late situation and can potentially introduce a gamut of complexities in my marriage & further life. What is my road ahead? I'm clueless!

Raider: I strongly believe, every person will be presented with a better or equally good opportunity/things in life to proceed. What is most important is to grab what will work for us than unnecessarily waiting for what will not happen forever. I'm sure the crucial of all is setting this particular expectation right in each one of us!

Marry if you can - Suspended Temporarily

Friends - I would like to suspend this topic for a while as:
- I'm little occupied with other tasks for sometime now
- Topic will span for 6 episodes and need a detailed writing

Keep watching for my further blogs;-))

Marry if you can! - Episode 1

Marriage - the magic (!) word that comes around like a buzzing bee, if any of us are in the age range of 25 and 29 (I won't count 30 and above into this range as it attracts very less/no prospects). Of course I have chosen to touch upon Marriage as I'm not married yet and its just biting me hard (as others keep constantly asking about it) than ever before!

I'm sure this topic can be interesting to many and will have lots of details to share. So please feel free to write them in the comments section with your name. When I started writing this blog, I realized this topic is going to go long in many parts, so please spare me if it happens to be too long!

I would like to touch upon the important factors that enable marriages to happen one-by-one:

Education: A very vital point that is needed for a marriage. Especially in the states like Kerala 100% literacy) and Tamil Nadu (90% literacy) it is totally inevitable to imagine a marriage without weighing the education factor (I believe this prevails elsewhere too but the weightage could be relatively different). Both grooms and brides are expected to have studied the most sought-after educations at the outset. The prevailing and most opted education is that something attracts IT or ITES jobs.

Nowadays almost in all schools (exclude govt schools) parents education is assessed before admitting their children in the respective schools. I share a different view on this aspect but it has become a de-facto nowadays. So this factor imposes a very strong point on both grooms and brides education to be checked.

What education means? Literacy is important in my own view. But the general public has defined a graduation is the meaning of education. If some one has not done any graduation they are so called uneducated people! I am completely different of this view. If we check the education background of most our parents it would be pity to note that they would have seen a college only to admit their children’s there. It would be interesting to note that the southern states of India have always come a long way emphasizing education from the late 19th century. So, I don't mean to say our parents were not educated but most of them may not be graduates or a degree holder.

I certainly agree in the years to come we necessarily have to have a very good education background to survive and also help our children’s study and grow-up in good institutions. For some unknown reasons, if some one has opted or was forced not to continue the education to achieve any graduation what would be the consequences? That might result very badly in finding a job, and in my opinion the most hit would be the marriage part. Sometimes it so happens, people tend to ignore the prospective non-graduate groom/bride regardless of other good qualities like brought-up, family, personal characters, and of course good-looks (I intend to touch upon them later in detail).

So education is pivotal for marriage prospects to really gear-up further.

(To be continued..)

Disclaimer (of course this is the title):

Why would you need a disclaimer? Is it to inform someone that you are intending to do something wrong? Is it to take the freedom to do anything, right before you start doing it? For instance a disclaimer to use abusive languages/ controversial topics/obscene materials?

If I think, should I use a disclaimer to convey that I am going to pick topics of varied streams that has interested/affected me - of course that can be more sensitive to others?

For what subjects should I use disclaimer - politics/religion/caste/sex - anything else? I think I can use disclaimer even to caution the readers to say that my english will be bad - it can be as simple as it could be used. I believe a disclaimer is used by people to disclose of themselves that they have written a subject which is unfamiliar to them and also let people know that this is their own view and don't intend to misguide/mislead/mis-inform readers? I'm not a good judge to issue an verdit of what can be disclaimed. However, I think disclaimer can be claimed at times when a subject that is observed to be sensitive to majority of the observers.

Generally I observed people (including me) talk/write on some subjects and in order to be diplomatic, they tend to apply a disclaimer that its their own view or thought. Is it right to accept such disclaimer? Yes & No. How is that possible? Its again left to the people amongst whom we share the so-called-sensitive information. If the majority chose to think the topic spoken/written by a person is non-acceptable then the topic is questioned. A disclaimer can help the writer/speaker to safe-gaurd themself from the majority to affirm their thoughts/views expressed are right on their own terms.

Disclaimers are used in favour of writer/speaker all the times may be because it helps them to establish the freedom of speech/writing. If a disclaimer wasn't there then it would have prevented the majority to think and establish thoughts and interests on something that was unintersting/unimaginable for many, sometimes ago. If this society or a person can do anything of his interest then I believe its because of the disclaimer the person/society has established for its existence.

A disclaimer can be used for both good and bad causes of a person or society. I believe a disclaimer is the true (sophisticated) expression of freedom in whatever we (can) do!

Disclaimer (the funniest part of this theory): I intend to write anything that comes to my mind which can be considered sensitive/provocative to you. So please be cautioned! of course language used would be very simple with no proper vocublary!